So how many times have you heard that moronic advice? As if by the person standing in front of you saying "get over it" is going to all the sudden trigger a catharsis for you! I heard someone once say "suck it up buttercup" to communicate this uncaring attitude. If you had the ability and strength to "just get over it" or "grin and bear it" then you would have done that long ago, right? So let's through those stock phrases out of the window.
I'm a much bigger fan of Cause and Effect, yes I am referring to Science 101. The first step is to understand what is causing the negative mindset without making an evaluation of yourself or the situation. Maybe it was being bullied in school, slapped by parents, or other regrettable experiences. So you think bad about yourself because you were told that you were bad. Pretty simple. So, it makes since that your authority source had motives to make you feel bad (like a parent wanting you to clean up your room).
To move forward we have to detach from the history and start taking record of the current information. If being told that you are "fat" or "not good" led to a depression, then we have to look at what's accurate. If I have a problem maintaining my weight...that doesn't mean that I am 100% fat. The real number can be obtained through fat analysis...and I'm pretty sure no one who reads this is at a 100% fat ratio. So are you fat, or do you have a higher fat ratio than you would like? I think the later makes much more logical sense. So quit calling yourself names and start looking at the data. That is how you work towards reducing negative thoughts and increasing the logical.
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